We are dedicated to ending domestic violence where ever it is found. You cannot judge how a man treats a woman by how he treats his fellow men. I know a man who was generally well respected. Served his country, his church, and his community. He had a problem. He had unresolved issues with his mother. He took out anger on his wife. One left him. He married again in a quick courtship. He told her that he didn’t have a lot of friends in the area, he really did not want anyone warning her. They got in a fight, she fell down the stairs. Her arm got broken. He threatened her that worse would happen if she reported it. She waited until the pain got so bad that she had to go to the doctor with the typical initial cover story. Her arm did not heal right and she suffered multiple surgeries and two years of pain. She could be verbally abusive. The idea that verbal abuse justified such cruelty is abhorrent. I remember some decades ago a gentleman, a soldier, and a cousin who lived down the street from me when we grew up left his wife. She tried to kill him. She claimed that he cheated on her. Of course one could argue what came first, his feeling that she disrespected him or his alleged cheating. The idea that alleged adultery justified two attempts on his life in 5 minutes is abhorrent. Once again, I promote the idea that we need to help people gain the tools for relationship happiness and conflict resolution. The majority of violent crime in America is relationship based. We need to condemn those who take to violence as an option for non-violent offenses. We also need to begin teaching our children and adults the right way to deal with problem. It is not a problem of just men or women or parent or teen. It is a problem of humanity. The sooner we deal with it in that way, the sooner we limit its damage.